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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #15 on: May 14, 2014, 02:44:28 PM »
The down side of discussing the logistics of doing such a thing, like putting here on a public forum, and talking with HR, and learning Spanish, is that all my wife has to now is off me and get rid of my bike. I can see the Dateline! Special Investigation now, calling in HR, "Yes, he asked me about a year long leave of absence", co-workers and IT, "yes he had info on Zihuantanjo on his computer." forum members, "yep-there it is, mid-life crisis planning." He obviously just took-off....how long until we declare him dead and get the insurance money?

Yep.  I won't even get as far as the planning bit.  I know she'll suffocate me with a pillow, and somehow make it look like a surfing accident.  Something about overstaying my usefulness.....

I doubt I'll be in the ground very long before all the bicycles, VWs, and the bike hit CL and EBay.
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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #16 on: May 14, 2014, 02:51:31 PM »
I think he's already been ground up into bits. She's just perpetuating the mid-life-crisis issue by posting with his account.

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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #17 on: May 14, 2014, 03:09:22 PM »
We're totally downsizing.  Sold the house, making plans to buy a trailer or build a live in garage or something equally cheap.  We did a 4 month trip around the country pulling our travel trailer and seeing the sights.  Now we're ruined
for being responsible adults.  We want a lifestyle that is conducive to just quitting for a year and hitting the road till we're bored then we can come back, get jobs for a while and save up to do it again.  :)  Good retirement plan.
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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #18 on: May 14, 2014, 04:08:45 PM »
I think he's already been ground up into bits. She's just perpetuating the mid-life-crisis issue by posting with his account.

He I am not.
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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #19 on: May 14, 2014, 04:09:35 PM »
We're totally downsizing.  Sold the house, making plans to buy a trailer or build a live in garage or something equally cheap.  We did a 4 month trip around the country pulling our travel trailer and seeing the sights.  Now we're ruined
for being responsible adults.  We want a lifestyle that is conducive to just quitting for a year and hitting the road till we're bored then we can come back, get jobs for a while and save up to do it again.  :)  Good retirement plan.

That is pretty much where I would like to be.
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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #20 on: May 14, 2014, 08:01:41 PM »
Fortunately for me; I can't afford a mid-life crisis.
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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #21 on: May 14, 2014, 10:25:15 PM »
Fortunately for me; I can't afford a mid-life crisis.


And how old are you?
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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #22 on: May 14, 2014, 10:51:53 PM »
I think he's already been ground up into bits. She's just perpetuating the mid-life-crisis issue by posting with his account.

He I am not.

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If you're in a position to do it and it's your dream, then go do it. We need someone to start a "Sold our home, quit our jobs, and went riding" thread around over here too.

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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #23 on: May 15, 2014, 06:22:13 AM »

If you're in a position to do it and it's your dream, then go do it. We need someone to start a "Sold our home, quit our jobs, and went riding" thread around over here too.

I will admit it. Gene and Neda's RR has had an influence on me, along with "Far on Small" and  JDowns's RR's.
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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #24 on: May 15, 2014, 07:40:10 AM »
I'm in for the ride report!

PS:  if you come through SoCal, I have plenty of couch space for the journey.
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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #25 on: May 15, 2014, 08:42:16 AM »
Likewise, Mid-Atlantic.  :thumbsup:
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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #26 on: May 15, 2014, 08:50:00 AM »
My couch isn't that comfortable but i do have a spare bed.
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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #27 on: May 16, 2014, 10:05:22 AM »
In a word, yes.

  • You make the change and figure out that you really do want to live differently.
  • You make the change, decide it's not really all that great, and pick up a year later.
  • You make the change, it does/doesn't work, but you can't go back to where you started.
That gives at least 2/3 odds of a good move. And I think you can weight the odds to even a better chance of a good outcome by understanding why this sabbatical is important.

Even if you essentially go back to where you were, you'll probably have a better understanding of what you want to accomplish, and will approach things differently than before the sabbatical.

In the cruising (sail or motor boat) world, and in the RV world, there are a host of people who've done just what you want to do. The people who "fail" at it are usually the people with unrealistic expectations. And IMHO they probably fail almost anywhere. Some people do their sabbatical with a young child or infant, recognizing that the sabbatical won't happen once school, etc. take over. Some folks effectively drop out. And then there are folks who've worked hard and now say "it's time for us!"

My wife and I are in the last group. We haven't totally "sold the house and gone cruising", but we have some great "sailing to the Bahamas" stories and we're accumulating some nifty VW Westphalia camper van stories.  ;D

Mid-life crisis? I don't think so. It's just a recognition it's time for a change.  :)

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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #28 on: May 16, 2014, 10:19:52 AM »
In a word, yes.

  • You make the change and figure out that you really do want to live differently.
  • You make the change, decide it's not really all that great, and pick up a year later.
  • You make the change, it does/doesn't work, but you can't go back to where you started.
That gives at least 2/3 odds of a good move. And I think you can weight the odds to even a better chance of a good outcome by understanding why this sabbatical is important.

Even if you essentially go back to where you were, you'll probably have a better understanding of what you want to accomplish, and will approach things differently than before the sabbatical.

In the cruising (sail or motor boat) world, and in the RV world, there are a host of people who've done just what you want to do. The people who "fail" at it are usually the people with unrealistic expectations. And IMHO they probably fail almost anywhere. Some people do their sabbatical with a young child or infant, recognizing that the sabbatical won't happen once school, etc. take over. Some folks effectively drop out. And then there are folks who've worked hard and now say "it's time for us!"

My wife and I are in the last group. We haven't totally "sold the house and gone cruising", but we have some great "sailing to the Bahamas" stories and we're accumulating some nifty VW Westphalia camper van stories.  ;D

Mid-life crisis? I don't think so. It's just a recognition it's time for a change.  :)

Well-thought response. Thank you. It reminded me of Hectogliders' post in the "Far on Small" thread:

"Being " on the road " will change you. Short trips with homesickness and a quick return to the usual routine will not bring about the difference. It's the longer journey, where you have slashed away the tentacles of modern day living, to enter into an open ended freedom, that's when the change takes place. Your thinking changes.
After a while your thoughts are no longer connected to anything to do with home, work, and to a lesser extent , family. Your thinking becomes centered around the day to day necessities of living from the seat of your motorcycle.
In many ways its a state of real freedom, perhaps it's a variant of the freedom being sold when you see some motorcycle advertisements.
To be free, to wander with the contours of the land and the patterns of the weather. You meet other traveler's along the way, and they mostly all share this same state of mind, the almost dream like immersion into the journey, with its challenges , frustrations and amazing moments so rewarding that only those that have been on the road for a long time can know and acknowledge with a glazed over expression as far away places are described in detail.
Then one day you realize the road has changed you. The places you have been, the people you have met and the way others live so far away from your home that you have witnessed first hand, so ingrained and burnt into your memory permanently . You cannot be the person you were when you left home so long ago. You were there. You saw it. You can go home, but you cannot "go back" to who you were before the long ride.
You were on the road. Now the road is on you. "

Maybe you can't go back once you go, at least not totally. But that could be okay..

So where does one find Westphalia Camper stories? :)
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Re: Mid-life crisis planning
« Reply #29 on: May 17, 2014, 02:08:17 AM »
Glad to be of some help.

Westy stories? We just got back from 4000 miles around the SE US. Westy stories? We got Westy stories.  :bigsmile:
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